I think it is very normal to always look for ways to work more efficiently. To evaluate any activity and see if there are ways to be better. To be somewhat critical of everything because there’s always room for improvement. I really believed this was how everyone thought–until I married Soy.
Soy and I were celebrating our sixteenth anniversary. I asked the question, “If you could change anything in our marriage what would it be? Do you have any regrets?” His response, “I would not change anything. I have no regrets.”
What in the world was he thinking? How does someone reflect on life and not come up with a list of things to change. So I probed just a little bit more—maybe he didn’t understand the question–maybe he just needed some help with his thoughts. “You would change nothing? Not one thing?” His response remained the same—“Nothing!” And he was very serious. I decided it was best not to tell him my list of changes and to just let it be.
When I was going through his things, I opened his Bible and found one piece of paper with an outline of our ministry. The outline was in my handwriting. I suppose it was when we were traveling to churches and telling about our ministry.
At the very top of the page, Soy took the liberty to write one sentence “Live a life with no regrets!”
Soy lived a life of no regrets!
